ARTICLES FAMILY

baitijannati - Beginning of a person's life is starting to settle down Kabul's final offer, that's when everything becomes halal haram. And for those who have been married she had taken control of half of his religion.

Anyone who got married, then he has mastered half of his religion, because it let him devoted to God in maintaining the other half. [HR. al-Hakim].

A household is like a sturdy building, wall, roof, sills, doors function properly. If the door is used as a substitute for, the house will leak, or any other function then the house will collapse. Likewise, household husband, wife and child should know their respective functions, otherwise it may collapse or messy household.

Let's examine one by one each function husband and wife.


Liabilities Husband

The husband has the obligation to make a living to support his family, but besides that he also serves as head of household or a leader in the household. Allah SWT says in this regard:

The man is a leader for women, because Allah has preferred some of them over some of the others and because they have spent most of their property. (Surat an-Nisa ': 34).

Getting married is not just a matter capable of making money, although it is also important, but not one of the most important. Husband works hard to drudge sweat to find a halal sustenance but apparently not capable of being a leader for his family.

O ye who believe, guard yourselves and your families from hell fire fuel is men and stones. (Surat at-Tahriim: 6).

They also must either treat his wife with the good:

And pergauilah your wives well. Then if you do not like them, (so be patient) because maybe you do not like something, but God made him that much good. (Surat an-Nisa ': 19).

Whoever liver encouraging wife, (then) seemed to cry fear of Allah. Anyone who cried fear Allah, then Allah has forbidden her from hell. Indeed when the husband and wife for each other, then God watching them both with great grace. When husband and wife grabbed the palm of the hand (knead), then berguguranlah sins of the husband and wife between her fingers. [HR. Maisarah bin Ali from the Ar-Rafi 'from Abu Sa'eed al-Khudzri].

In one story is told, one day the wives of Prophet gathered before him and asked, "Among the wives of the Apostle, who is most loved?" Of the Prophet only smiled and said, "I'll tell you later."

After that, on different occasions, the Prophet gave a to his wives each a ring as he gave the message that does not tell the other wives. Then one day the day the wives of the Prophet were together again and ask the same question. Then the Prophet said, "The most I care about is that I gave the ring to him." Later, the Prophet's wives were satisfied smile just thinking that only he who gets the ring and felt that he was not isolated.

Even someone keshalihan level is determined by the extent to which his attitude toward his wife. If his attitude towards good wife, then he is a good man. Conversely, if the bad treatment of his wife then he is a bad man.

Thou shalt feed a wife that when you eat and you give him clothes when you get dressed, and do not ever hit the face and do not denigrate him and never parted from him except in the house. [Al-Hadith].

The best person among you is the best treatment of his family. Indeed I myself was the best among you in treating my family. [Al-Hadith].

So, the husband should not busy making a living outside the home and then forget about responsibilities as family leaders. The husband is obliged to control and supervise the child and his wife, so they always obey God's command, leaving the prohibition of God Almighty, so avoid the torment of hell fire. He will be held accountable by God's answer when his wife and children leave the worship compulsory, do disobedience, open aurat, seclusion, drugs, stealing, and others.

Each of you is leader and every leader will be asked for accountability for the lead. [HR. Bukhari].


Liabilities Wife

My wife has a duty to obey their husbands, educate children and keep his honor (veil, seclusion, tabaruj, etc..). Obedience is required for a wife is not without reason. Husband as the head, directly responsible for family support, protect and maintain the safety of family they were born-the mind, a world-afterlife.

Such responsibility is not playing weight. The husband should try to take his wife and his children to be able to obtain assurance of heaven. If the family member that until fall to hell because one supervisor, then the husband who will bear the torment of the future.

A wife's obedience to their husbands in order to obey Allah and His Messenger is the way to heaven in the world and the hereafter. The wife should disobey her husband if her husband orders contrary to Islamic rules', eg told to gamble, banned headscarves, and others.

Women are five times when prayer, fasting month of Ramadan, will maintain his honor and obey her husband, she entered the door of heaven wherever desired. [Al-Hadith].

This is the jewelry world, and the best jewels are women Shalihah. [HR. Muslim, Ahmad and an-Nasa'i].

Women who Shalihah who obey God is to maintain self again when her husband was not there, because God has kept (them). (Surat an-Nisa ': 34).

Obey Allah, obey the Apostle, wearing the hijab (clothing) which covers all of his private parts and not to show off beauty (tabarruj) as ignorant woman. (Surat al-Ahzab: 32).

Had I sent one to bow down to others. So I'll have a woman prostrate to her husband because of the magnitude of their husband's rights. [Al-Hadith].

The best is women who please you if you looked at him and obey you if you ordered him, and if you are traveling she keep herself and her honor guard treasure and yours. [Al-Hadith].

Dispute

Husband is forbidden hit / hurt the wife, if there is a dispute there are several steps that can be achieved,

The wives are you worried about pembangkangannya, then encourage them, separate them from the bed, and beat them (with punches that do not harm). However, if they obey you, do not you guys looking for a way to bother them. (Surat an-Nisa ': 34).

Thou shalt feed a wife that when you eat and you give him clothes when you get dressed, and do not ever hit the face and do not denigrate him and never parted from him except in the house. [Al-Hadith].

If you feel concerned about the existence of disputes between them, then utuslah an (arbitrator) of the family of her husband and alone peacemaker of the family of a wife. If both parties want an improvement, Allah will give taufik to husband and wife. (Surat an-Nisa ': 35).

Thus Islam set with perfect form so that the family life and happy family sakinah world hereafter. Wallahua'lam ..